Relationships & Vibrational Resonance

I had some amazing insight recently as I was wandering around our neighbourhood and contemplating the different relationships in my life, marvelling at how, from one day to the next things could shift so significantly in how I was relating to individuals in my life; my life partner, friends and family, and how each of those interactions made me feel.  It struck me then that all relationships are based on our individual vibrational resonance and those that fall away are simply because we are no longer resonating at that same vibration one or both parties have shifted in vibration and the relationship is no longer coherent or serving either party.  Its not a judgement or a right or wrong situation it is simply a shift! And can also be the reason that family can be so challenging, as for in most cases, they are with us for better and worse and we cant necessarily just let those relationships go, which can mean they can be a constantly changing and shifting landscape which is both challenging and uplifting.

We have so much emotion attached to these interactions and relationships that is very easy to get caught up in trying to make things work, to “save” the relationship when what it most often needs is just release and letting go.  No wonder divorce rates are increasing! Many Clients that I work with in Reconnective Healing and particularly the Reconnection either come to me for this very issue or find themselves experiencing this shift and these often disconcerting changes in the relationships they have.  It can be very difficult for everyone involved when change is occurring, it is scary for the person who is not shifting to see a loved one changing and this can result in even more discord as sabotage comes in to play and the person shifting feeling held back or belittled for their journey.

Many times the person who is making these positive changes in their life will encourage their loved ones to join them in raising their vibration and will often get upset when they meet resistance, which is understandable, it is much easy for us to lower our vibration to the level of others around us, however once we have experienced this higher state of resonance we dont often want to come back down and resent having to.  However just because we may have found the way to raise our own vibration, it does not mean that our loved ones will do it the same way.  There are so many ways in our beautiful world right now to shift our energy and raise our vibration that it is likely that what works for one person wont necessarily be the answer for another.

Simple things like doing something you are passionate about has the effect of raising our vibration, being in flow and bliss and feeling no guilt or pressure for indulging in this passion – this can have the most amazing impact on our vibrational resonance.  For me kiteboarding or snowboarding (and even thinking about either) raises my vibration exponentially, as does a walk in nature or having a nurturing “moment” with my baby boy.  Dancing like no-one is watching and really feeling the music is another way I get my spirit soaring. And of course playing in the Reconnective frequencies is a quick sure fire way for me to get back to my true vibrational resonance.

So if you are in this quandry and are struggling to relate to those around you, perhaps  you could start by realising that each person needs to want to find their own way to raise their vibration, if we want to keep these relationships or people in our lives perhaps we can start by encouraging them to do something they love, that makes them feel good and support them in that, rather than believing they have to do what has worked for us!

If you are wanting to boost your own vibrational resonance that has a lasting effect I definitely recommend reconnective distance healing as well as the Reconnection and if you know someone in your life is struggling to find that thing that will ignite them then why not gift a distance healing for them? as long as their higher self is in agreement and wants to engage then it can work amazingly without them even having to know on a conscious level and all you have to do is sit back and watch transformations unfold….

Happy Monday to you all, have a great week swimming in those higher vibrations as we move closer to our path of enlightenment!